I’ve been thinking a lot about where I receive encouragement lately. I tend to turn to a small group of close friends when it comes to my “solve the problems of the world” conversations – also known as my life – or for sharing my personal wins and achievements. But for a number of different reasons, my usual group of confidants weren’t available recently when I was seeking to reach out.
Now, I have to admit that I am fortunate to have circles of many good friends. Some I see at coaching groups, others in my church, in my spiritual groups, in my workplace and I’m sure in a few more circles that aren’t coming to mind right at the moment. But one thing is common, rarely do these circles interconnect. My coaching friends are my coaching friends. My church friends are my church friends. Like George Costanza on the TV show, “Seinfeld”, apparently I don’t like my “worlds” colliding!
I had been in a powerful group coaching call about beliefs (check out www.vickimcleod.com if you are ever interested in any kind of group, personal or professional coaching – she is simply AMAZING in this work!) and was having one “aha” moment after another. But when it came time to actually talk to someone to verbally process some of my thoughts I went through my “solve the problems of the world” group and mentally checked them off one by one. No one was available. So, uncharacteristically of me, I reached out into another circle and had a conversation that was insightful, warm and supportive. Oh wow, I felt so supported!
Later that same week when I was celebrating a win, I again reached out into a different circle and once again, I was amazed at how many people took the time to respond to my post and celebrate my win with me. But it wasn’t just the typical ‘way to go Kath” comments, it went on in the form of encouragement to continue on my path and a deepening in our relating to each other in our sharing.
I’m now looking at how I can bring my circles a little closer together and maybe even overlap them a little – like the Olympic rings – and wonder what powerful relating, support and encouragement will emerge for all of us. I can’t wait to find out!
With warmth and encouragement,
Kathy
